YOU’RE MAKING IT HARDER THAN IT IS

Do you ever put something off for no real reason, and then a few days later it

feels ten times bigger than it needed to be? A text you didn’t answer, a decision

you didn’t make, something small you said you’d do, and now it feels like a

whole situation. Not because it actually is, but because you let it sit.

I think people make things harder than they need to be. You don’t respond

because you don’t feel like thinking about it, and suddenly you’ve been

“meaning to get back” for three days. You avoid making a decision because you

want to get it right, and now you’ve overthought it to the point where doing

anything feels like a commitment. You tell yourself you’ll handle something

later, and then later keeps moving. So now it feels like a whole thing.

The conversation you haven’t had, the decision you haven’t made, the thing you

said you were going to start… none of it is actually that complicated, but the

longer it sits, the heavier it feels. And at a certain point, you’re not avoiding it

because it’s hard, you’re avoiding it because you’ve made it feel hard.

It shows up everywhere. Work you keep pushing off because you don’t feel ready

to do it right. Plans you keep rescheduling because something else feels easier.

Situations you’ve outgrown but won’t deal with because changing them feels like

effort. You think about it, talk about it, plan it out, and somehow that starts to

feel like progress. It’s not.

Thinking about something is easier than doing it. Planning something is easier

than committing to it. And the more time you spend there, the more

complicated everything feels. Then the same pattern shows up in how you take

care of yourself. You say you want to feel better in your body, but now it needs

the right routine, the perfect schedule, more motivation, more time. You tell

yourself you’ll start after this week, after this trip, after things calm down. You

plan to go to class, and then talk yourself out of it 20 minutes before because it

suddenly feels like too much.

It’s the same thing. It’s not that you don’t want it, it’s that you’ve made it harder

than it is.

Feeling good in your body is not complicated. It’s showing up, doing it again,

and not negotiating with yourself every time something feels slightly

inconvenient. But people don’t want it to be that simple, because simple doesn’t

leave room for excuses. No perfect plan, no waiting until you feel like it, no

“I’ll start when.” Just starting.

And that’s where most people stop, because they stay in the space of thinking

about it instead of actually moving. But the longer you sit in it, the harder it

feels. The more you build it up, the more effort it seems like it’s going to take.

And then when you finally do it, it’s usually not nearly as serious as you made it.

At BARE, it usually ends up being a lot simpler than people expect. People come

in thinking it’s going to be overwhelming, like something they need to figure out

before they can even start, and then realize it’s just about showing up and

staying in it. Consistently. That’s what works.

You don’t need to do the most. You just need to stop avoiding it.

Because most of the time, the thing you’ve been avoiding isn’t actually that

hard.

You’ve just made it that way.

From my core to yours,

Maria Stege

Founder & CEO, BARE Pilates Studio

…and that’s The Naked Truth.